While I understand the sentiment, and have certainly felt it in the past, it always makes me weary hearing people use this as an excuse. Life is too short to not take chances. Vulnerability is what makes us uniquely us and that same exposure is also what makes us grow.
If you’re afraid of pain or things not “working out”, I recommend you invest your social life in cats. Don’t mistake this with pursuing every person you meet, but my god, if there’s enough there to seem interesting, why would you avoid checking it out just because you have a gut feeling it wouldn’t work out? Bluh, I have a friend who used this logic the other to explain to me why she was cutting off contact with a guy she was seeing for a few months and I almost spit whiskey in her face. When she declared that she ‘knew’ it wouldn’t work out despite their mutually assumed compatibility. I simply can’t fathom why people would avoid something they like simply because getting hurt or ‘failure’ might be a possibility. If that were a universal truth, and people avoided each other because ‘it might not work out’ we would be extinct by now. You must forgive me, this logic just hits a bit close to home and is the polar opposite of my beliefs on human interaction~
Also…”meant” to be together? Who means for you to be together? Who means for you to fall in love? Nobody means to fall in love, otherwise you wouldn’t be falling…you would be planning to be in love. And though you can’t plan to be in love, you CAN plan to be together, you can work at it and try, and if it doesn’t happen it doesn’t happen but you don’t know that in advance.
THANK YOU! Welcome to the very exclusive and trendy club of “My favorite people” under the grounds of “being freaking brilliant” and “tellin’ it like it is”